I don’t get involved in Facebook wars. I have friends I don’t agree with on gun control, health care, welfare or climate control. It has never been my style to confront them on their wall. I speak my mind on mine, and figure if they’re stupid enough to believe global warming is a hoax on theirs, I’m polite enough not to point it out to their face.
I found out last night that all bets are off when I am confronted with raging homophobia.
A friend shared something some Neanderthal had written and she commented it was well said and the whole truth.
It started with every homophobe’s favorite dodge, “I am a Christian and I believe in the Bible. I do not support homosexuality or “homosexual marriage.”
Let’s dissect that, shall we? We all know the drill.
Unless you also believe that shaving and cursing are wrong. Unless you also never eat lobster or pork. Unless you also believe you can never touch an “unclean” menstruating woman. Unless you’ve never worn a polyester blend. Unless you believe that a widow needs to be forced to marry her dead husband’s brother. Unless you never have gotten a tattoo. Unless you’ve never done a lick of work on a Sunday. If you have done any of those things, and still use the Bible to shield your homophobia behind, you just might be a hypocrite.
Having revealed his homophobia in the first lines, the author goes on with a list of things designed to make him (could be her, I don’t know who wrote the original) look like a nice person.
Starting with, “Yes, I still love you.”
You just don’t get the same rights as I do. That’s love, right?
And followed by, “Yes, we are still friends.”
As if anyone wants to be friends with such a prejudiced person.
And continues with, “No, I am not judging you.”
I am just going to treat you like a second-class citizen.
And, “No, I am not condemning you to hell.”
As if he is the deciding vote in who goes to hell.
And lastly, my favorite, “No, I will not let anyone bully you.”
He doesn’t see, not for one second, that HE is the bully. He’s deciding who is and isn’t worthy based on his hatreds. A bully in school is a terrible thing, but they’re kids and hope springs they’ll grow up into a decent person.
Then the denouement: “But realize that name-calling and stereotyping those of us who stand up for what we believe is exactly what you don’t want done to you. We have a right to speak what we believe same as you have to right to speak what you believe.”
It’s hard to get through the day without a good rationalization, isn’t it?
Bigots always trot out the freedom of speech line, as if by disagreeing with them, we’re stepping on their Constitutional rights. Yes, you have freedom of speech and you can say any rotten, mean-spirited thing you wish, but that doesn’t mean you’re free from the consequences your hatred causes.
I found it an unusual post for Facebook. Most bigots keep their bigotry well hidden in a closet. They’re usually not so above board with their prejudices.
It was a big week for gay rights, with Senator after Senator changing their minds on the issue. I was hoping at least one Senator would have said, “Look, I’m a Democrat in a fiercely red state and there is no way these yahoos would have elected me if they knew I was pro gay marriage.” That’s okay by me; whatever gets you through the night. As Detective John McClane said, “Welcome to the party, pal.” Just don’t think we don’t recognize political expediency when we see it.
Lesson learned: Bigots get very confrontational and emotional when called out. They just don’t get smart enough to see that all men are created equal.
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